Dating the divorced with children
I never wanted to have children and when I hit my late thirties, I really thought the whole to have kids or not to have kids‘ debate was over even if it sent my mother into a fit of hair-pulling tears. Perfect’s problem this was entirely my problem as I was the one with the hang up about kids and it was up to me to either move on or adjust my thinking.
I had dated guys in the past that had a child or two as well as the ex-wife baggage but it had never worked out my lifestyle was just not meant to have children a part of it. In some ways, I was lucky I knew about the child long before I had to make a decision about whether this was the man for me. Right had always been upfront about his son and ex-wife so as I got to know him, I also got to know about his son he never held anything back just in case it would scare me away.
If anything he told me too much maybe in an attempt to test me if I stuck around after each new story, I must be either a) crazy or B) actually in love with him and since I continued to stick around, he got his answer: c) all of the above.
We’ve known each other almost 20 years prior to dating, and the transition to an amorous relationship was easy and natural.So you met Mister Right – a glorious knight in shining armor complete with the big white stallion who has successfully swept you off your feet, whisking you away to the castle of your dreams. One major problem that not only walks and talks but talks back and it has turned your perfect fantasy into a complete nightmare. Everything about this man was what I had spent a lifetime looking for and I was not going to let a teenage boy get in the way.Mister Right has sole-custody of his kids and to be a part of his life, it is up to you to decide if this is still the man, and the kingdom, of your dreams. This was not the teenager’s problem nor was it really Mr.If you are dating a divorced man with children, you need to fully understand what you are getting yourself into.
It irks me when women date a divorced man and then complain that their boyfriend is paying too much child support and alimony. You have to expect that if your boyfriend has an ex-wife and kids, he must fulfill his financial and parental obligations to his first family.I had dated a man with two children that he had every other weekend and it did not work out mostly because of the way their mother was raising them.